So, what is it about breasts that makes North Americans SO obsessed with them as sexual objects? In the course of history many different parts of the female body have been fetishes for men, for example ankles, necks, and tiny feet (in China)... so WHY breast obsession in our age?
It seems to be linked to the fact that breasts are viewed very strongly as sexual body parts, and NOT seen as "baby feeders." In fact, at least some Americans are about to forget their natural function!
In the fall of 1993, one of the undergraduate students in my
'Women and Culture' course was totally flabbergasted to discover that the biological function of women's breasts was for feeding children. With obvious shock and disgust evident in her voice she asked,
'You mean women's breasts are like a cow's udder?' That a young woman could reach college without ever having even heard of women using their breasts to feed their children is a sad commentary on American culture.
Katherine Dettwyler as quoted in The Breastfeeding Action Committee of Edmonton (BACE) report about Breastfeeding at Municipal Pools in Canada
If we can see breasts as the WONDERFUL means God created to feed and comfort babies, then the obsessions about them can disappear; men don't have to think that breast appearance somehow counts the most, and women don't have to obsessively worry about the size and shape of their breasts.
What about women who do not want to or cannot have children? How should they view their breasts?
Their breasts, as all women's, are essentially a "signal" or a reminder of how babies are fed. They are still like a "banner" that shows us what food babies get. Even if you are not going to ever breastfeed and use your breasts for that purpose, you can still appreciate the function of breasts, the wonders in breast milk, the efficient mechanism of how it all works (if you study a bit about it), and so on.
This obsession HURTS women and men in various ways that are not always obvious. For example: MEN become easy targets for pornographic advertisements that use breasts as the main enticement or keyword. Or, a woman may need to go braless for her breast health's sake, which then results in men ogling over her, making comments, and considering her only on a sexual level (see comment by Chris below).
But why does the American society view breasts primarily as sexual objects and not as baby feeders? Carolyn Latteier voiced it out this way:
"Well, I think it has partly to do with the fact that we don't
breastfeed very much. I mean, breastfeeding rates have improved, but most women don't breastfeed very much or very long or in public. So when we see a breast, we don't say, "Oh there are those magical milk-making things."
Carolyn Latteier in Berman & Berman's TV program "All about breasts"
Let's see how that might come about.
Baby is fed from the bottle, so he doesn't get to know Mom's breast as a food source and as the best pacifier. Also, if Mom never undresses or uncovers her bosom in front of her child, the child never gets to see breasts. Parents, society, TV, and media show breasts to be something forbidden, something to be covered, yet exciting and sexual, preferably large and upright, and the child easily ends up believing that way, as well.
But what if the baby is breastfed?, you might say. After all, most women do breastfeed their babies at least in the hospital. But they don't do it for very long! Let's imagine what happens in the weaning process.
Baby is breast fed in the beginning. But, maybe Mom has problems with breastfeeding, can't find help, and has to start supplementing with a bottle. This reduces her milk supply, and soon the baby is weaned. Or maybe Mom goes to work at six weeks and weans the baby completely at this point (she could have continued nursing in the evening and morning!).
But for whatever reason, Mom weans the baby early on. But just because Mom quits nursing doesn't mean the baby wants to! The attachment and love for Mommy's breasts don't go away just like that. The baby loses its best source of food, yes, but it also loses one of its sources of comfort and security.
The babe is probably feeling along the lines, "Hey, don't take those away from me! Those soft sponges belong to me! You can't do that! Hey, nobody here cares about my feelings! PLEASE Mommy....."
This kind of early and forced weaning can hurt the baby emotionally. Deep inside the baby retains the feeling of wanting the breast. The baby still likes Mommy's breasts. He/she is still interested in Mommy's bosom and wants to touch it, cuddle the breast, feel close — and get the yummy milk (breast milk tastes quite sweet, sweeter than formula).
You can see this when weaned toddlers and babies are still interested in breasts and want to touch them. Unfortunately, many times the mother feels uneasy about it and maybe thinks it is "indecent" or "perverted" behavior. The father may feel the same and fear that his child (especially his son) is going to grow up to be "some kind of pervert." But that is not true! Little children don't think sexual things!
Then the mother tries to get her child to stop this "nipple twiddling" and breast cuddling. The child is probably taught that touching naked breasts is BAD, it is a "NO-NO". Now, if the mother never lets her children see bare breasts, it is no wonder that the child develops a curiosity towards breasts. The child stars thinking, "What is it about them? Wonder what they look like? Why do they keep them hidden?"
While the child is growing up, everything around her touts that breasts are forbidden, a taboo. We know that taboos just encourage curiosity. On top of that, the media presents breasts not only as forbidden but something exciting and sexual, which starts arousing sexual feelings especially in boys. Girls at least get to see their own breasts and often times Mom's too, which lessens this curiosity/excitement factor.
So, what started as innocent curiosity and love towards Mommy's breasts can be turned into sexual feelings in boys, whereas young girls start (often obsessively) worrying about the sexual attractiveness of their breasts. They worry about their breast size and shape, nipple size and shape, stretch marks, sagginess — about every aspect of their breasts, and quite often start wishing for breast implants, assuming that breasts need to be big to be attractive.
So what should you do if your already weaned child wants to touch mom's breasts and is very curious about them? Here's what to do: explain in the child's level of understanding what those pieces of flesh are for. Explain to him/her: "These are the milk bottles you drank from as a tiny baby. They are called breasts." Or, "These are like milk bottles. Milk comes out of them when babies suckle and they're called breasts." Show the child a few photos of nursing (from the Internet, for example). Give him/her a biology lesson (on her terms)!
The WORST thing to do is to make a big fuss, to declare breasts a no-no and something totally forbidden (taboo). It's simple enough to tell the child what they are, and do so in a no-nonsense style, just sort of "no big deal", normal type of thing. That should satisfy the child's curiosity.
After a while, such curiosity will probably pass and something else will take its place... just don't make it any big deal. But IF the child keeps wanting to touch and cuddle for a long time, you can explain that "These are the milk bottles but they are my body parts and you don't have to touch me here all the time." You can offer a reason such as "...the nipple is so sensitive." But first make sure you've given the explanations.
This is a question that cannot be answered in a short space. Breasts are part of the "whole package" that makes a woman. They aren't sexual in the sense that merely looking at them in some everyday context (such as BREASTFEEDING) shouldn't make men instantly think about sex! Yet they are sexual in the sense that they are a female body part, and the whole female is sexually attractive to men.
We are not saying that men can't appreciate and admire women's breasts (as feminine and beautiful body parts), or that a man and a woman can't enjoy touching each other's bodies during their intimate relationship. We are saying breasts are not supposed to be an immediate "turn-on," or in other words a special obsession point for men.
The advertisements and media images play to the idea that men are supposed to be "all ready" the instant they get a flash of a breast. That, we feel, is UNHEALTHY! However, breasts are a part of our femininity as women, and men can be, and ARE drawn to the whole female. It is indeed the whole woman, the entire feminine being who kindles and fans the flame of sexual desire for men.
On this website we aim to fight back against this sad trend where breasts are "elevated" into objects of automatic "turn-on" for men. Keep in mind, though, that this is NOT men's fault, because they have been culturally conditioned to see breasts that way.
So let breasts be like legs, hips, neck, face, and all the other body parts of a female—part of the whole female (and it's the whole that is sexually attractive to men). Breasts tie in with maternity: they signal that the woman is mature, capable of bearing and nursing children. They also REMIND us of their precious life-giving part in child-rearing. Perhaps YOU yourself were once nourished by those magnificent organs!
Some people mention to us Song of Solomon, which mentions breasts in a sexual context. People say that proves breasts are supposed to be "sexual." Keep in mind Song of Solomon CLEARLY places breasts on the same level as other body parts, such as the teeth, neck, and hair. Think of breasts both as "ornaments" (pretty) and as "magnificent" (because of their function—the process of milk production and breastfeeding is QUITE intricate). Song of Solomon definitely gives the picture of the WHOLE FEMALE as being attractive... (including breasts) but it does not in any way show breasts as some focal "ogle" point.
The LESS women breastfeed, the LESS people get to see the real purpose of breasts. At the same time media everywhere touts the view of female breasts as sexual. That in turn makes it harder for women to breastfeed, since many of the reasons for not breastfeeding are linked to the sexualization of breasts.
So the less women breastfeed, the harder it becomes for women to breastfeed. We have a cycle that self-promotes the view that the main purpose of female breasts is for something else than feeding babies!
The cure?
We also invite you to watch one (or some) of the videos on VideoTimeTravel.com — the topics in those videos do tie in with what you have learned here!
We often see paintings or videos of events from ancient times, depicted in forms of dress far different from what ancient information, statues, and drawings portray. Most people shrug that off as nothing to be concerned about. Yet, one of the main reasons so many people reject the 
as an accurate historical document rests directly on that very problem!
Worth considering??? It gives many answers that are desperately needed in today's world. Thus, CLIMB ABOARD... and let's 'Time Travel' back to ancient times, to use modern discoveries to learn and visually portray the REAL TRUTH of this matter!!!
I came across your site by accident because I just implemented a new safe search engine on my web site and typed breasts in it to see what results I would get. I was very interested in the comments and views here. As a man I have fallen prey to the media and have become obsessed with women's breasts. I was never breast fed and believe the first time I ever saw a breast was in pornographic magazine. I believe these experience rewired my brain and the media has only increased this faulty thinking. When having my son I was very involved in helping his mom breastfeed, from actually holding him to her breasts after his birth because she was too tired to helping pump with our manual breast pump. Unfortunately as a divorced single dad I am still struggling with this obssession. I utilize my bounce technique as often as possible in which my eyes will start to look at a women and then I imediately catch myself and look in the opposite direction. But it is still a battle. Do have any other suggestions on how to wean a 32 year old man from the breast? Thank you for your work.
The problem you experience is unfortunate, and unfortunately has been caused by the way the society teaches us to view breasts. To rectify it is not easy, but IS certainly possible!
The main solution has to do with rewiring the brain and getting rid of the association "breasts = sex" that has become so automatic.
Remember Pavlov's dogs? They trained the dogs to expect food whenever a bell rang. The media and pornography train men's brains to start arousal at the SIGHT of a female breast.
Consider breasts being on the same "level" as other female body parts, such as hands, lips, hair, face, legs, and so on. Then, seeing breasts alone won't be especially exciting. In other words, female breasts should just be "part of the package" of the female form, but not a special sexual object when viewed alone and in themselves.
One of the best ways to do this is to visit a topless beach where all the people - men and women - are at ease, and the atmosphere is totally non-sexual. There will be breasts all around you, and when you see them a lot (IN A NON-SEXUAL SETTING), they become very usual, nothing special — and even boring!
We have received reports on how this truly works. So, if economics allow, consider vacationing in the Caribbean. Still pictures can help some too; however, the live situation is better because you will EXPERIENCE how the women are just going about their normal things, and it is not sexually provocative.
I love your website! I've never had the problem of being obsessed, but because
breasts have been so sexualized and are considered taboo, I've always felt
uncomfortable with being topless around others and others being topless around me.
Hearing this new and fresh opinion has allowed me to rethink my views on breasts.
Joanna Muja
Oh! I loved this whole website. The way you all have written is marvellous! I mean
it completely changed my point of view... my way of thinking. I used to be one of
those immature and ignorant people that viewed breasts as a taboo. Like a something
that's to be hidden (under a bra) all the time and if not, the girl is perverted,
bad, characterless, etc. She wants attention, etc. But not anymore. I've grown much
mature and understanding within the past 1 hour I spent on your website. I bet,
every male human being that reads these articles, will become less perverted and his
point of view will change too. And that's something that made me favorite your
website! Good job! Keep it up! :) <3
ABC
As a liberal person, I definitely agree with what you have written here, but I also
would like to add that this should apply to the human body as a whole. The media is
so much sexualizing these things. They are just parts of the body. As a man, I tend
to judge women based on how they carry themselves. Their assertiveness to what they
want, their attitude, a little about their confidence, but mostly how true they are
to themselves. Size doesn't matter. The whole does.
Scarlet
I breast fed both of my children in the 80's in California. One of my best
experiences was as I was breast feeding in a restaurant. I would put a blanket over
my shoulder to cover the baby and myself. Modesty was expected. I had an older
woman come up to the table. She expressed her enjoyment at seeing a your woman
breastfeeding. She asked if she could peek at the baby. I lifted the blanket. She
reached down and ran her finger across my sons face while I was breastfeeding. It
was the most natural response and there was no awkwardness. I was so encouraged by
that lady's reactions.
Dawn
Every once in a long while you happen to bump into an organisation or an event that
makes you think: "I wish I could claim to have been the origin of this!" Stumbling
onto gotopless.org gave me that exact feeling! However, the mere existence of the
need for such an organisation (and there must be a need, or it wouldn't have existed
in the first place) and the attention it stirs up, above all in media, is evidence
of the sad attitude towards the fact that roughly half the population of Homo
Sapiens have been blessed with two of the most beautiful and wonderful attributes
known to us that exists in so many cultures around the globe!
Why are so many individuals in those societies so terrified of the mere sight of
these attributes that they forsake no opportunity to attempt to hide them, or, even
photographic or artistic representations of them?
I don't think that anybody would seriously claim the Jerry Springer Show to be a
family show, but nonetheless, the viewers must be "protected" from the, apparently,
lethal effects of bare nipples and/or breasts by fuzzing them out!
Admittedly, I was never part of the American society, and, therefore never
influenced by its values and prejudiced views upon fully or partly exposed body
parts. Consequently, I do not understand the danger in having caught sight of one of
nature's wonders. So, I wake up every morning in deep gratitude for not having to
endure the pain of living in such a devastating terror it must be to constantly be
tormented by the risk of being targeted by a bared nipple, every second of the day!
I used to be an active nudist/naturist in my younger years, and I remember clearly
the discussions we used to have about how far we should venture into the concept of
public nudity. Should we work towards a legislation that allowed public nudity
whenever the temperatuere and climate allowed it, or should we restrict ourselves to
beaches and camping sites and other similar places? We never reached a conclusion.
Maybe the discussions are still going on?
Bengt Grahn
Your site has been a blessing so many women, even the men. Please keep on the good work.
Thank you.
ThankGod Ali
I was never breastfed as a child and breasts obsession was not a huge issue for
me. My wife, whom I dated beginning when she was 16, was a size 36D. While I loved her
figure, her breasts size was not the first thing I noticed about her. It was her long
red hair. I do think that both men and women tend to go overboard with the breast
issue. Young women enjoy flaunting their breasts but hate being noticed by men when
doing so.
Mike
Just dropping in: All girls who are depicted on this website, enjoy your small, wellformed, formkeeping, breasts - also no hindrance in this or that movement. And attractive. Please !! forget implants !!
Now I am a 74-year old European, used to sauna and nude beaches: Well, small is beautiful.
Decades ago we here also were breast-crazy. Late mediaeval and renaissance statues and paintings showed a breastfeeding Mary - nobody bothered. Then the big taboo came - strange enough. Neverrrrr in the world see or let see nipples - or heavens will fall down and mountains will crash and oceans will flood the land - or maybe you get blindfolded. The sight simply will disturb the healthy development of the youth - as authorities, officials, magistartes and judges told us. Strange enough, this did not count for pictures from the African Mission field. As teens we were guided to Pater Gusindes slide shows; Protestant missionaries Ernst Kotz's illustrated book was on our bookshelf.
Make an end of the mammary madness! Enjoy your female distinction!
philoalexandrinus
My son naturally weaned, but whenever he sees his sister breastfeeding, he tries to push her off and get some. It's hilarious, I don't feel odd, I just tell him that he drank this once, but now it's his sister's milk. I'm very open to my kids about breasts and what they are for, so whenever I do get them out to feed, my son goes, "Little sister, drink milk" (in Indonesian though) and points.
Cheri
All of this, and much much more, is in my book 'Breastfeeding Older Children', Free
Association Books, 2010. Though it has some theoretical chapters, there are
chapters on most aspects of breastfeeding older children, plus statements from
mothers, fathers, and children throughout. Feedback has been wonderful! It's in many
local, national and academic libraries around the world, so if you can't find it/buy
it, get your local library to stock it and provide a free resource for parents!
Ann Sinnott
Hi, I am a 14 year old little girl. I started getting my breasts about a year ago and
this site has helped me realize my breasts are perfect and beauty I am a blossoming
young woman.
jayne
Thank you so much for this website! I stumbled across it after feeling completely
inadequate. I sometimes can't help but compare myself to what society has perceived
as the "perfect breasts", which mine are far from. I've gone from a 32a to a 40D
ever since I got pregnant with my first child. I've proudly breastfed all 3 of my
babies, and they are happy and healthy, and I would like to feel proud of myself (and
my breasts) for it. This website has certainly helped!!! Thank you again.
Kristina
I just stumbled onto your site and was very impressed! It is very well presented,
and educational, but I would like to mention a few things. MOST men are probably
naturally attracted to a woman's breasts because of instinct, and being breast fed
as a baby. It's one of the first things that are put in your face, it is warm and
soft, it's has nourishment, and it is comforting. These are all the things that make
a baby feel good. So I think as we grow to become men, that still holds true, even
though they are not used for nourishment (most of the time) anymore. A woman's
breasts are still are warm and comforting, and men generally still love touching them,
and yes it is exciting too. This is nothing to be ashamed of, and a woman shouldn't
think that men just attracted to her because of her breasts. The
thing is, although men are visual creatures, it's the total package that counts,
mind and body.
Sean
As a professional videographer who has many plastic surgeons as clients I have
viewed countless "before and after" photos of women who have had breast enhancement
surgery. It's a wonderful option for the right woman at the right time with the
right surgeon at the right price. The price could be merely money but could also be
death or stroke — something to think about. I've often thought when viewing these
before and after shots, "Why? Why did she do that to her beautiful, natural
breasts?"
Is it possible that size is important only in attracting men from afar? They are
attracted to the big breasts initially I think at a base level, because the male
instinct tells the guy this is a good female to mate with; she will be able to
feed her young; it's somewhat of an animal thing. That may have been really good
eons ago when it was so important to multiply and prosper as a species, but isn't
really a very good way attracting suitable mates these days.
So you're a young woman and you think bigger breasts will be better for many
reasons. If it's to attract a mate, you might miss "Mr. Right". Let's say your new
bigger, fuller look gets you more dates. With whom? What if the guy is only in
love with your breasts? One day he will dump them for another set. Once he gets
over his love affair with your breasts, all that's left is you. Are YOU enough?
What if your "Mr. Right" is turned off by fake looking balloon shaped Barbie
breasts? He may not even approach you.
How sad it is that a young woman would spend any energy or resources trying to
change her body to please a man who likely is not worthy of her.
When does it end?
I'm a 58-year-old man who has been around the block. It's the woman who makes the
woman. Good things come in small packages. It would be interesting to learn how many
men are turned off by surgically enhanced breasts. Again, the right procedure for
the right woman with the right surgeon is a choice each woman must make.
I agree that we men in the U.S. are obsessed with female breasts possibly because
they are hidden from us. It's clear to me that it's a cultural phenomenon.
Be well ladies. You're beautiful as you are, before or after.
Ricky G., Oceanside, California
What a blessing this website is. All my worries and preconceptions about
breastfeeding, nipple size, sagging breast etc. are gone forever. I love what I have
been given by God and thankyou thankyou so much for all the helpful information.
amy
My wife breast fed both of our daughters. Now that the older one is 12 and
developing this was a great site to help her. We have always told both our girls the
media sells everything with sex and to be confident in themselves, no matter what
they look like. She can see a great example of how Mom and Dad are not stupid, maybe
they might know what they are talking about. I think, and certainly hope, this site
will help many young women develop the self confidence in themselves. It might even
help change a few minds of the male persuasion.
Todd
I live in North America and sincerely agree with the fact that things have to change
in North America to allow females the liberty to be natural and comfortable like
other parts of the world. Equally, it is imperative that females stop using their
body parts as tools, because once you create the market, it will exist. The problem
is largely created by the women themselves, and not only the doctors and the media. I
was raised in a third world country where half of the girls I grew up with did not
wear bras or even cover their breast until age 18. We had no interest in even
looking at their breast at all or even admiring them. We saw the beauty of a woman
without necessarily looking at the breast.
When I got to North America, the mentality around here is really weird. Ninety
percent of the girls use their breast as tools to obtain favors and services from
men they feel they can not have otherwise. Like police tickets, grades in schools,
porn, money, promotion, etc. Why should a female dress completely well and leave
half her breast out? It provokes the curiosity of the beholder. All females know
there are bras that allow them to show their breast, even if they have tiny breast,
to allow them attract men. Females should advocate the natural dignity of all women,
I strongly support it.
Thanks
Baz
Hello,
It's hard to swallow everything at once after reading tons of information that
really has been a wonder to me my entire life. I grew up with two parents that
really tried their best to explain everything to me. My mother always was open and
tried to make sure that I learned anything that I was curious about. This was all
fine and dandy for the household, but unfortunately she was the only one that thought
that way. Whenever I went to my grandma's house and a nude scene or topless lady
was on TV, my grandmother tended to cover my eyes with her hands as it was being
showed. This of course only made me angry and even more curious. What was so sacred
about a naked women that I couldn't know about.
Soon later I started seeing other
people and going to school, and that, I have to admit, was when I became afraid to even
talk about it. I remember so well, I was in class and if anyone in the school even
mentioned a sexual organ, you were suspended. No question! So naturally I figured
stay away from it. I was punished many times for even bringing it up.
So, I went to my parents again. My father being a man was embarrassed; a definite double standard.
He wanted me to grow up as a bachelor and never worry about girls. Asking him
stuff was pointless. His answer was always "It's normal". My mother tried again,
but I never truly was shown an answer, always told. So of course what does one do
when he wants to know something? He goes online and googles it. Of course I found
more porn than anything, and began thinking that, that was the way of life. No one
bothered telling me or rather showing me what I was supposed to know. It was
always in theory or possibly not told to me at all.
I am a prime result of what will happen if you don't tell your children the plain
and simple truth. It starts as curiosity, becomes jealousy, and leads to hate and pain.
I hope this story helps in someway, because I vowed never to let my children go
through what I did.
Nick
Dear Ladies,
I believe (as male) that however you are shaped there, this is not the most
important. The most important is you: the person. When I decided to ask my girl
for marriage, it was not because of her boob size, it was simply love with the
person. The rest was a bonus and still remains like that, meanwhile two children
further she has grown some fat and has increased breast size. I'm more for the
smaller breast size, but as expained before, when the woman I love has a different
size, it is OK, even better than OK, because she is the one I love.
I don't know if this comment helps, but would like to add: when you have a friend
that makes a problem about your breast size, you might ask yourself the question
whether it really is a friend? Furthermore, do not care about what other "will"
think. Probably they will not think what you think they would think (sorry when it
becomes a bit complicated), just be yourself and show that: you will glow always!
Dirk, from Belgium.
My breasts are a 36D. Up until this past summer I didn't like my breasts. I went to the spa where women can be topless. A friend of mine saw my breasts and made a comment that I had nice breasts and she couldnt believe they looked so firm at 48.
beth
Yes, I agree with everything you state about making breasts taboo, etc. and I found that going to a nudist family beach really does train the mind to view the whole body as a perfectly natural thing, where men, women, and children are at ease with their and others' bodies. It can be a very healing experience after the initial discomfort of exposing one's own body for the first time.
Lin
Hi, I was one of the many coming across the site by accident. I feel that there is a lot of truth to what you are saying, especially in the respect the society's attitude towards breasts is mildly ignorant. Also, it joys me to see something being done about the comparing game, and making women realize how beautiful they are. However, (and this is just my personal opinion) I could do without such a negative attitude towards "Western" culture. I understand that you have a very good point, and it would definitely have that kind of freedom here in the US, but that kind of a change is many years away. Other than that, I really enjoyed the website, and hope that more people come to realize that breasts are just fat and mammary glands, not sexual fantasy prompts, and (for women) that their breasts are beautiful no matter shape size or color.
Thanks again!
Christine
Thank you for the article and for all comments. I agree, the idea that woman's breasts are oversexualized in our culture is terrible. As a woman I feel under the strong pressure that my breasts should be attractive, big and pert at the same time, which is actually rare.
I sense this boobs-obsession get inside my mind, and makes me concentrate not only on my own ones but also on other women's breasts, I stare at them, compare to mine, judge. I feel that's absurd, but it's so hard to vanquish the idea that woman IS breasts and not a human being.
Lulu
I am very impressed with the attention given to small breasts on this website. When I was younger I was more impressed with large breasts, but when I met the woman who became my wife, I fell in love with everything about her, including her very very small breasts. It was the first time that I had been with a woman with small breasts and I was very impressed with how "beautiful" and firm they are. Actually I have learned to love and to prefer woman with small breasts. Size does not matter and I really don't understand why a woman would get implants. Just like some people prefer blonds or brunettes, some people (such as me) prefer small breasts. Breast size does not make you a "woman." Lastly, her small breasts are the most beautiful breasts that I have ever seen. If you have small breasts don't ruin them with surgery / fake boobs! Save your money and be confident!
Rick
Your page is so informative. I am a 24-year old girl and always imagined of having larger breasts, but now I feel different. Thanks to your article.
Jyo
My second comment on this site, now discussing breasts in general. Confidence is something you can learn from early age, especially body confidence. The most horrible examples of the contrary, is when parents (mothers esp.) encourage their daughters to enhance their breasts, even pay for it. I live in Norway, and girls 18 and younger have breast enhancement (silicone) to be "normal", and fit in among their peers. Being students, of course their parents pay for it. It's terrible! Instead of teaching them how to accept their bodies and appreciate it, they model their children into some image of perfection. This is a message to all parents with teenage daughters: If your daughter has small or large breasts, and feel insecure about them, show her this website and discuss the topic until you have changed her mind. B.r. Mette
Wow! thank you so much for this site. I have 2 grown sons, both of whom were breastfed. I have always thought, "As long as they (breasts) work, then that is what matters." I feel for young girls today having to view all of the misogynist images of women that are plastered everywhere. I am now in my 50's and I don't watch TV or go to movies anymore because I can't stand looking big fake breasts in my face. The camera shots of women in many movies show her with no head, just breasts. It is insulting and humiliating! I hope girls and women will find your site. I plan to sent this to every one I know, again Thank You!
Deborah
Hi, I'm 17 from Canada. I've grown up without a mother figure in my life, so I never got to see what breasts look like apart from TV and movies until I developed my own. I really like reading about breastfeeding and the sickness the media has spread about breasts. Even though I'm young, I still want to learn about my body and the things that could happen when I get older. I want to thank you for all the information on this website and I think now I have a different perspective about my own breasts. I've always thought I was a freak of nature because I have one breast that is less than a B-cup and one that is almost bigger than a C-cup. For a while I was even worried that I had breast cancer because of the different sizes. I live with my dad and my brothers and I can't ask them questions about these kinds of things (for obvious reasons), and I used to never leave my room without a bra on, but now even if I don't feel comfortable without a bra on when I go outside, I think now I can be at least more comfortable in my own home, and if my family tells me it's gross or indecent, I can tell them the things I learned on this website! I'm going to show this website to all my friends (even the boys) and I hope that more people come to see breasts as the miraculous things they are and not for sexual gratification, so thank you and keep educating others <3 Let's make this a world-wide revolution!
Jessica
Thank you so much. I sometimes get very sensitive about my small breasts. (32a) Even though they're just joking, my friends pick on them. It hurts very much. I cannot help the fact I'm so small. Seeing other girls with small breasts that aren't photoshopped or enhanced was actually comforting. I was actually crying. I was so happy to realize that I'm not "ugly". I am healthy and beautiful. I have something that will help me to raise my future children. I can create life and sustain it. Once again, THANK YOU! :')
Rachel
I'm a 28-year old woman from Finland and it was really nice to see a website that has a non-sexual and natural way of seeing breasts.
In Finland things are a bit different because of our cultural traditions. In our culture people have for hundreds of years had the tradition of going to sauna. For those who don't know what sauna means or what it means for Finns, it is a room that is heated for very hot temperature and where people go to relax and sweat away their stress. Families all over Finland use sauna often weekly and usually families go there naked. In many families children can see their parents' bodies in natural and non-sexual way and also see what happens to their bodies when they grow older. It's absolutely normal in here, that families go to sauna together until the puberty of the children. And I want to underline, that even though women, men and children go to sauna together, there is nothing sexual about it. Nudity in family is often considered natural in Finland. This doesn't mean that we hang around naked all the time, but the attitudes towards nudity are perhaps more natural in Finland than in some countries.
That also means that girls and boys have often seen natural breasts and usually know what breasts are for. The attitudes towards public breastfeeding are unfortunately getting more and more unapproving, but it's still considered quite a natural thing to do (as it should be, in my opinion). What is worrying is that even though natural breasts are not a taboo for Finnish people, the development has been that young girls and women are very self-concious about their breasts, because of the images that they get from media and pornography.
For myself, I can say that I learned to accept my own body and especially my breasts when I met my fiance, who loves natural breasts and can't understand the media hype for unnatural and "plastic" breasts. For that, I'm really grateful because I have suffered for low self-esteem for most of my life. I'm also happy that I had the chance to grow up in an environment and culture, where nudity isn't overly sexualised.
Salla
There are a lot of men that don't think twice about going to see strippers but once a woman pulls out a breast to feed her baby are totally disgusted by the sight and think they should go to a restroom to breast feed. I can't imagine telling someone to take their meal into a public restroom. I'm a J cup and can't even consider going in public without a bra, but I have noticed that men treat you like you asked for large breasts and deserve to be stared at. I have actually been asked why I don't show them off. I believe that ignorance leads to breast augmentation.
Betty
Thank you for this site. I was always into breastfeeding and fed my son up to 5 years
and sometimes as comfort when he was ill. I started to feel uncomfortable later if
he instinctively touched them for security, even though he no longer nursed, as I realise
I started to let society in and was indeed worried I would make him strange or
deviant. I think I can relax now and allow him his comfort, cuddles, and security, and
remember our beautiful bond.
cha
Hi! I JUST came across your site today and I'm VERY happy I did! I'm rather young (22), but have seen how media and men/boys are about breasts and realize how a lot of girls feel 'inadequate'. You should really try and get this site into every middle school in America in a fight against the way media represents breasts and to help girls perceive themselves as beautiful no matter how their breasts are.
Bonnetta Gregory
I think this website is brilliant and people should be wearing t-shirts promoting it.
Not only does it help men relax a little in regards to their sexual attitude to women but it helps women relax in their attitude to themselves.
Most importantly it helps men and women BETTER INTERACT WITH EACH OTHER! It helps our relationships, women are more open and relaxed about their bodies and men are less aroused and more appreciative. I still want more pictures of male genitalia in the media also, it may seem a perverted thing to say but it would help both genders to be more open to displays of 'normal' (not airbrushed) nude bodies.
It is worrying that not only are men being programmed to find these media images of women/breasts arousing but women are too (hence all the worry over their breasts) - I have been programmed to find women attractive and it's taken me a long time to find my husband's body arousing when I know I find him attractive (women are often taught that men are ugly and women are beautiful). It isn't just about breasts, the media is a big problem, it makes us ashamed of who we are, programs us to find certain things attractive and we lose a part of who we are.
Keep the comments from men coming in, I love reading their point of view!
Sandra
I love this website it is educative and informative. I am 22yrs old, have big boobs. Initially, when I was growing up, I used to be ashamed because of the size. I even wore two bras at a time. Later, a large lump was removed from my breast at the age of 19 and my breast is still in good shape. Men should try not to look at the breast object of sex. Ladies, be proud of your boobs no matter how it is.
Glo
Seeing these photos brings me such relief! Our bodies vary sooo much and it’s ridiculous and harmful to perpetuate certain standards of body/structure. It dishonors our differences and creates harmful hierarchies of desirability. I feel so much more confident about my body.
Ru
Eu fico realmente muitoo, mas muitoo feliz em existir pessoas assim, que realmente querem ajudar as mulheres a aceitarem o próprio corpo, eu só tenho a agradecer por esse site, porque não é fácil para uma menina de 14 anos aceitar o corpo assim de "pa puf",e esse site foi uma das coisas que me ajudou a perceber que os meus seios são pft assim, o meu corpo é pft!
Tenho 14 anos, e minha genetica puxa mais para a família do meu pai, tenho seios pequenos, e ver que outras pessoas tb tinham e se aceitavam assim me deixou muito pra cima, me fez perceber que isso é parte de mim, da minha personalidade, e hoje eu não sei no que meu corpo precisa mudar, "melhorar", eu só sei que ele é pft, e o de todas as mulheres tb são, MULHERES VCS SÃO PFTS!!!
TODAS SOMOS PERFEITAS! <3
ANNIA GEO
Translation by Google translate:
I'm really very, very happy that there are people like that, who really want to help women accept their own bodies, I just have to thank you for this site, because it's not easy for a 14-year old girl to accept the body like " pa poof", and this site was one of the things that helped me realize that my breasts are perfect like this, my body is perfect!
I'm 14 years old, and my genetics are more related to my father's family, I have small breasts, and seeing that other people also had and accepted each other like that made me feel very high, made me realize that this is part of me, of my personality , and today I don't know what my body needs to change, "improve", I just know that it is perfect, and all women are tb, VCS WOMEN ARE PERFECT!!!
WE ARE ALL PERFECT! <3
ANNIA GEO
As someone who struggles with body image, because YK I'm a woman. I love this site. I love just seeing such power. I really do thank you 007b!
Sky
I've been in tears all night over how my breasts look; I turned 16 a few days ago and I couldn't stand how I looked. This website has helped a lot.
lexi
I was raised in a very conserative home, with strict controls on what I was able to see or learn about the real world and human sexuality. This environment created an intense curiosity that led me to obsess over the female body. This website has finally, at 62 years of age, given me the right mindset for viewing women, and their various body parts. Thank you for your candid exposee of real breasts, their variety, and how to think of them as baby nurturing rather than men stimulators!
Greg
It's not surprising that men find women's bodies interesting but it's puzzling why breasts and nipples in particular are surrounded by such a strong taboo. Of course this only generates more interest. It has become less popular for women to go topless on beaches than it was is the 80s and 90s. We could speculate on why this is. I wonder if the fashion/swimwear industry has deliberately tried to encourage the idea that breasts are indecent to avoid a loss of income. Recently reports of women not wearing bras during lockdown has led to dire warnings from 'experts' of the dangers of not wearing a garment that only became widely used in the early 20th century.
Alan Paine
I view a woman's breasts as beauty and functional, not necessarily erotic. What really turns me OFF is enhanced breasts especially when they are not proportional to the rest of the body. To me its almost like looking at a circus clown, just odd. Women with small breasts needn't feel inferior they are just as beautiful and functional as any other. Most men that I know laugh and ho,ho,ho when they see those grossly disfigured women.
Tom Flyer
Thank you for this website - As 30+ y.o. I have never thought of the concerns a teenage girl would have about her breasts. And it made me sad to read these concerns. I think that the content from older visitors to the site would help. Its a shame that parents are so inept in their role, to talk to their children of both sexes about these issues. The lack of mature and rational sense of exposure to the body and sexuality, creates the potential for complications down the road, and we need web sites like this one, to find a healthy reality check for our perspective. And that is the most powerful thing to have control over, if you cant control your body, by all means, push for control over your perspective of it for the better.
Gary
The comment of the women in Mali is true . I as a western man was not breast feed so i missed that bonding stage of human development.
Thomas
I would look at this website when I was younger because I was insecure about my breasts. Now, I'm a woman, less insecure but just as grateful that this has been a continuous resource for women.
Kerry Schuermann
Thank you. It felt really good surfing on a smart website. I was looking for some information about my breasts, because no one teaches us anything about them, and I was really disappointed because I could only find pornography. Reading all of this really gave me hope again, it means people who think normally still exist. So, thank you, I''m relieved.
Yasmine
I love to see how you are empowering women to take control of the staring and the men! Women are humans just like men and they shouldn't be pressured to hide or reveal ANYTHING. For me, I was feeling very shy about what I looked like to boys, but now it doesn't matter. I am a woman, we are strong, beautiful and powerful. What is the obsession with hips, and breasts? Women don't stare at men all day long. The kid-in-a-candy-store attitude ends HERE with 007b. Thank you so much.
Ebony
As a man, I think much of the male obsession with breasts relates to the development of breasts at puberty. A male growing up has always had his penis, so we know no different. Whereas a woman's breast don't [grow] until puberty, and become very obvious to all. That not only is a change that women have to adapt to, but is a mystical unknown to men, that can lead to an obsession.
wallen
As a male professional graduate-level anatomist, extensively familiar with not only male but also the many variations of female external anatomy, let me say that all the breasts in this series are perfectly normal. Each pair is beautiful in their own right and should be respected and loved by their owner! Girls and ladies, everyone is unique!
If anything is important, it is to maintain their health. This is best done, according to the most recent research, by 1.)eating a healthy diet rich in vegetable products, 2.) minimizing (or eliminating) bra wear as much as possible to reduce chances of getting both fibroids and cancer, and 3.) performing a monthly self-exam. Hope this helps. Please continue to maintain this excellent website!
Dr. Anatomy
I'm just so happy about this website. When you see the media you always feel weird and left out. I'm so happy to know there are other women like me. I'm from Venezuela.
Vanessa
Before getting pregnant, I used to love my small, hard breasts, but after gestation they changed completely, both in size and shape. At the beginning I did not want to accept it, but as it happened I realized that I should love myself the way I am. I still miss it when I was before, but I do not let in any thoughts that try to shake me.
andreza
I totally agree that women's breasts were created solely for nourishing babies. So, it is totally inappropriate for men to look at them as sexual objects
David Hardie
I'm an 18-year old female living in America and I've really been struggling with being comfortable with my body, especially my breasts. I'm adopted from China so I'm naturally small but since I didn't come from my current parents, I wasn't breastfed and I didn't see many breasts growing up. My parents taught me and my siblings sex education and gave us private talks/outings when we started puberty (we listened to the old tape recordings of Passport to Purity). In my early teen years, I lost the sight of breasts being a normal body part. I was taught through the internet that men liked big breasts, big butts, a certain look, etc etc. I grew up hating everything about myself, especially my breasts (they're AA cup). I'm so insecure about myself because I was worried that people would think that I'm too skinny, too flat chested, not pretty enough and just being Asian. I also hated shopping because nothing ever seemed to fit, bras aren't small enough. It also made me insecure that they're different sizes. I was considering surgery to get them slightly larger and more even but I got worried when my doctor said it wouldn't be good to breast feed any future kids I have. I recently made great friends and we have a blast whenever we get together (which is quite often). Recently, I realized that my friends don't care what I look like and that over time, I didn't either. I do get very insecure about my body from time to time but I'm doing better that I was a few years ago. I actually like some of me, I'm not quite there at liking all of me but I'm getting there.
I found this website by accident, I actually was looking for articles of women who are flat-chested like me and found this place. I think it's great that this website is teaching others about female biology. How others don't know about the opposite sex is disappointing, America really needs to step up their game.
To other flat-chested girls or ladies who are insecure about their bodies: I learned the hard way that social media makes me depressed and insecure about my body so I advise you to cut down from makeup videos, hair tutorials, exercise videos and body transformation pages and/or videos. As a naturally small person, I felt like I had to go through a dramatic body transformation or wear makeup like everyone else to be beautiful but IT'S NOT TRUE. We are perfect the way we are and someone telling us that we need to have this or look like this to be beautiful is not true.
Lesley
I feel bad for the women who have self image issues related to there breast size. Personally I prefer small size, but that has nothing to do with if I find a woman attractive. Myself and my brother and sisters were raised by a single parent mother, who is very open mind towards sex and nudity. We grew up in a nudist home, we are all comfortable being nude around the house. I was never excited by a women's breasts. When other boys and men are. I think because of seeing my mother's and older and younger sister's breasts growing up,it is like looking at there ankle. I think that if there hidden from sight, and something your not supposed to see. Then there a sexual attraction to men. I have no real sexual interest in a women's breasts.
Captainblack
I agree with Lara, I'm very glad to live in Europe! Topless and nude beaches are common in (middle and northern) Europe, so people see female breasts not only in a sexual way. I even remember watching an educational tv show (around noon) where they showed naked adults. To me there is no difference between a male and a female nipple. Whenever it is allowed to show a male nipple it should be allowed to show a female nipple.
Breastfeeding (in public) is also common and encouraged where I live. I breastfeed my 3 month old whenever he is hungry.
Jenny
I adore this website. I've always been very self conscience about my breasts whenever I'm not wearing a bra due to the shape of them because I thought everyone should have these fully rounded perky breasts and mine simply aren't! It's so restricting to live your life like that. But this website has made me look at my breasts and realise they're meant to look like that. They're good breasts. I'm only 16 yet I have 32FF and I feel as though everyone sees me as a middle aged woman but with a baby's face. But that's not true! I'm so happy this exists.
Alice
Hooray for this website! It is wonderful to see someone put the truth out there for people to read. Problem seems to be getting them to read and heed.
It amazes me how many women will readily complain about wearing a bra and typically will take it off at the first opportunity. Add to that the results of the 20 year study that shows that in many cases wearing a bra causes sagging of the breasts due to the chest wall muscles basically becoming lazy due to little use.
The first time I took my wife to South Beach in Miami, she had never been to a public beach where topless sunning was allowed. At first, she had nothing but negative comments about the topless women that were there. Could not imagine why they would "show their boobs" to all of the men on the beach. In many cases, the men didn't actually look like they cared. In a couple of hours, I encouraged her to at least give it a try for 15 minutes. If she didn't like it in 15 minutes, she could put her top back on and I would not say anything more. Well, after about an hour, I asked her what she thought. Needless to say, she thought it was very refreshing and comfortable. From that point on, she didn't even take a top with her. Wore her bottoms and a cover-up until we reached the beach. Of course, there were several guys who looked her way, but who cares. Just don't touch her.
The next year we went out of the country to a place with a nude beach. When we first walked the beach, she was quite surprised that everyone on that end of the beach was totally naked. Guess what? Nobody cared. There was no sexual activity. There were generations of families there and nobody cared.
There is a movement called Free the Nipple that is advocating for females to be able to go topless wherever men can go topless. I honestly believe that in a year or two, most people wouldn't give toplessness a second thought if it became more mainstream. Breasts are for feeding children. There is nothing to be ashamed of. I've worked in the medical field for almost 50 years and believe me, the only person who judges a person's body is the person. If there was more nudity around, there would be far less body shaming and sexual attraction for breasts.
Congratulations on a very good site! I'll be sure to share it with others.
Rick
Thank you for this amazing website!!!!
Jennifer
I'm a 37 year old man who found your site looking for info about my 10-year old daughter's development. This site is extremely informative. I understand how women mature, but I was looking for info on how to help ease her through the emotional side of it without being an inconsiderate male. My wife can confirm I'm not the the best at the "feelings" side of anything.
This site seems to help a lot of young girls to see they are totally normal. Besides who's to say what is normal? I am very glad you tell them that they don't need big breasts to be beautiful and feminine. The only [thing] I would say is that some women think men only want big breasts. But that is not true — men love all breasts, big and small and everything in between. I just hope I can get through to my daughter that she is beautiful, not her "parts". Thanks for the help and keep up the good work.
Wil A.
I've always felt unconfotable sharing my odd relationship with female breasts. I always feel like if I tell someone my thoughts and experiences, they'll see me as a perv or making exuses.
My brother and I were nursed 100% until Mom went dry. I knew them for producing milk. My brother and I were exceptional in school, although I've fallen victim to epilepsy.
When in the first grade I found myself in the women's locker room because the babysitter didn't want me running off. I didn't care about all those breasts, all women had them, right? I was more afraid of the women seeing me! I went to a trailer park pool often, and my friends were mostly undeveloped. I was confused why they and the other older girls wore torso-length or two-piece swimsuits. Once on a rural road, a friend "stole" a girl's shirt, she was about 15. She made an ear-piercing-scream and ran after him, and I thought she was crazy. That year I had an absence seizure while mom was talking to me and changing bras. When I came to, she had covered her chest and was saying in a panicked and disguised tone, "Stop staring at my breasts!" I felt confused and mortified, and she never took off her shirt near me again. It wasn't until I started looking at adult material around 11 y/o (in the dial-up era) and kept getting breasts shoved in my face, that I put everything together. How ignorant. Yet it didn't make sense to me.
I never changed like everybody else. The women of today haven't helped themselves, always 'flashing' and doing provactive poses covering their breasts. And it's sad how they're, according to the TV, "extremely graphic", "disturbing", "nudity" and carry a big black bar. What are we teaching our children? In my mom's family this wasn't an issue. In fact, my great grandma started a topless rowing team in the 50's! The otherwise conservative family has no qualms about the topless European women archoring their boats and playing on our private beaches or coming up to say hi.
Thank you for trying to make women accept their bodies and show what NORMAL women look like. As a guy, a girl's insecurity about her breasts is one of the most irritating things, what matters is the entire woman.
nt
This website is truly awesome and educational! :) I'm using it as an educational source and forwarding it to everyone I know. Also, to men obsessed with boobs because of American hangups, La Leche League meetings (well, I mean going with a wife or sister) are good normal exposure to lots of people acting normally about breasts.
Andrea Clingaman
Interesting website. Here in Australia breasts appear to be subject to a similar taboo as North America but women are encouraged to breastfeed, including in public. When my daughter was born I suffered bruises, scrapes and lots of pain. This can be caused by incorrect latching on, but my midwife assured me she was feeding correctly and my skin is just much more sensitive/weak than normal. My mother and grandmother both attended hospital or breastfeeding clinic, but were unable to breastfeed any of their children.
I'm now pregnant and trying not to put any pressure on myself about breastfeeding. My step sisters keep facebooking about it, and sites like this are militant about finding ways to make it work, and this is good.
I suppose I will probably do what I did last time and express milk, then feed from a bottle. People looked at me disapprovingly to see my baby being fed from a bottle, but they don't know how hard it was for me to find that I couldn't breastfeed.
If you are a mother able to breastfeed, just try it. It's easy, doesn't curdle in their stomach, won't cause allergic reaction, doesn't need expensive equipment, or complicated sterilisation technique. And it's great for helping them sleep.
But don't be mad at me! I'm trying to do the right thing too.
Sunshine
Wow. I've always felt really insecure about my body, especially when I was just hitting puberty and my breasts grew to C-cups seemingly overnight. Being a shy 12-year old and the annoying middle school boys snickering behind your back really made me hate my body and wish I was flat-chested like the other girls my age. Now I'm older and less insecure, but I've always felt the need to conform to society's expectations on how a woman's breasts should look, and felt ugly and abnormal when my breasts (one half a cup size larger than the other) in reality did not meet those expectations.
Anyway, this site, especially the photos of what real, non-sexualized breast look like make me feel like I'm not ugly or deformed, but just a normal 18-year-old girl who should feel beautiful just like the women on this website. Thank you!
Adelae
I'm so grateful to have found this website. I found it through a picture on Facebook and I've never been so relieved in my life. My boobs came through at about 9 and they haven't stopped growing since I am now 17. I am now a 34H (UK sizing) and I always looked at my boobs as these horrible saggy things on my chest. Along with my small frame and only being 4 ft 9", I just look completely out of proportion, but it's reassuring to know that there is at least one thing that is normal about me ;)
Georgia B-S
im a young teenager and i feel a lot of stress over my boobs. im a 36dd and it's really hard to get a shirt or dress that is flattering in my opinion but not revealing. if i ever wear a shirt i like that's revealing, i get comments from my friends that my boobs are showing too much or i get stares from creepy old dudes. im from england btw. it's just so annoying that a young girl like me gets sexualised because of my breast size (something i can't even control!!) whenever i do what i want to.
mj
When I was younger (I'm currently 18), I always had the smallest breasts in my friend group. I'm naturally skinny and small, and it made me feel awful that most of my friends had C cups by the time they were in 8th grade. Throughout high school I kind of stopped worrying about it, as I had plenty of other things going on in my life. I remember one day my junior year, I was getting ready to take a shower and seeing my boobs in the mirror, I was surprised. They didn't grow 3 cup sizes overnight or anything, I'm not even sure they grew at all. But I was happy with the way they looked. I'm not sure what size I am since I don't wear bras, but when I do I'll usually wear a 32B. (Although I don't think that's the right size.) My biggest insecurity is that I have inverted nipples. People think it's weird and gross, and I'm scared to get naked around anyone. But recently, I've been finding positives about them. I can go braless whenever and wherever I want, because I know my nipples won't be showing. I know that the right partner for me won't care about that, and I know that there are non-surgical ways to "correct" them if I really feel the need to. I'm proud of my body and what it's capable of.
Claire
I want to start off by saying how grateful I am for this site. I am a 21-year old female that is disappointed in the culture that surrounds me. I often visit different sites that show everyday women and their bodies and love your site and what it is doing. It is great for men and women of all ages. So many women struggle with their bodies and thinking they are not good enough, not realizing their breasts are perfect the way they are, and I think your site is accomplishing so much by allowing women to become comfortable with their breasts.
I am tired of American culture acting as if breasts are shameful, and yet at the same time irresistible to men. Women are not objects and should not be so sexualized. Thank you so much for creating this site, for I truly believe it is doing so much good. It makes me feel so happy to know others feel the same about the female body. Keep up the good work!
AA
As a 17-year old girl going through severe insecurity about my body, I was so relieved to find this website. I am a AA cup bra and I've grown up on the idea set out by the media and my male peers that a woman must be a B cup or larger to be considered "sexy" and that my flat chest made me not fully a "woman". I was teased in 8th grade about my chest size and ever since have resented my body.
A week ago I was seriously considering implants the day of my 18th bday, but now that I have found this site I may reconsider. It's nice to finally find a site where breasts aren't sexualized as they are all over media.
Hannah
Hey thanks heaps for having this web site. I really admire your courage in setting this web site up to assist with helping others to clear up subjects that seemingly have muddy waters or shame attatched to it.
I think the world needs more confrontations in these areas.
I'm a 28-year old male living in Australia, and I've been doing some self reflection into why I feel sexual about certain parts of the female body and not others, you know like the elbow for instance. Now I'm wanting to feel into the personality more and more, and it's much more joyful.
Having said that, currently there is still sometimes the desire to have a sexual reaction to the sight of breasts, and as I felt into the reasons why, I began to feel into my history as a child and how I was treated. See, many men use sexual feelings as a cover often for how sad they feel on the inside through the absence or lack of love in their early childhood environmets (obviously to do with mum since it relates to the opposite sex), and from my own experience use it as a bit of an emotional addiction to cover over the grief we feel of being under-nurtured by our mothers. I know this might seem a bit taboo to mention something like unloving and mother in the same sentence, but in my situation this is definitely the case. By the way, I'm not judging mothers here. I'm simply stating the truth of my relationship growing up. And to me it makes sense that what I desperately seek for in my adult life is simply due to that same thing (nurturing) being non-existent in my environment as I grew up.
The sooner we reflect more on our urges, the quicker we can realise our addictions and release them.
Not to say that all emotional injuries come from undernurturing; also on the other end of the scale there can be overnurturing.
So anyway, when I feel sexual responses towards specific anatomy, there is certainly always an erroneous reason as to why. As you correctly stated at the top of this page, in a perfect human condition you would love one another as a package where the majority in fact would be the personality, because when you think about it, soulmates don't discover one another because of a certain types of anatomy. It has all to do with feelings involved in connecting to each others personality.
Sorry if I went a bit sidetracked I guess you catch my drift.
Anyway thanks again.
cheers tim
Excellent initiative — I have bookmarked this and will refer any friends that may be having breast issues to it. I had my own issues as a young woman — the usual "why aren't my breasts perkier and why are my nippples so big" one that many others have had. Now at 62 I am great friends with my 34E breasts — after breastfeeding 4 children they are still fine. I started out as a 34B as a teen, but got a bit more after each baby — not only on the breasts;-) Please keep up the good work — this site is such a wonderful eye-opener!
Alice
Having grown up in the conservative South, all nakedness and nudity was considered shameful. While I was breastfed along with many siblings, it was done in a secluded area from a nursing bra and never a naked breast. It is almost impossible to view a breast in our 12/26/12 modern culture that is not in a sexualized form. There are naked breasts in movies and the internet and even TV (cable but when was the last time it was a baby being fed that was shown?). I personally have been uncomfortable about breasts as a man my whole life, because I feel like I am staring. I am naturally curious and interested, but still see the over-sexed images that crowd our culture. I wish women were more open about breast feeding and we could change that so women felt more respected. I think if skin and breasts and being naked were more common, instead of what I was taught, that we would not need to seek the available versions to experience them. Your site is the first non-sexual site I have ever seen, and I was curious, as my girlfriend has J size cups and I didn't even know what that meant. I am glad to see what normal women look like and how pregnancy and menstrual cycles affect the important women in our lives. Thanks for providing positive information and breaking taboos, and thanks for being brave enough to share ladies even with insecurities. I have a third nipple myself in the middle of my chest and a fused extra rib that is obvious and protrudes (we are just perfectly us) ...Jreed
I am a man in my mid 50's and found this site by accident. First, women worry too much over their breast size and shape. Ladies out there, breasts are beautiful and don't be too hard on yourselves. You do not know what men worry about, but I think you know. Take care of your body and let the worries go. I know there is a match as in man and woman for everyone. I hope this mail will help, thank GOD for woman's breasts, the world is a better place. Jerry........
Breast size is not an issue with me. I prefer small to no breasts on a woman. It is her personality that is the important thing.
jeremy
YOUR WEBSITE WAS VERY HELPFUL TO ME. I THOUGHT MY BOOBS WERE NOT NORMAL BUT NOW I CAN FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF. THANK YOU VERY MUCH AND GOD BLESS. johanna
A woman who is ashamed of her breasts should not be. They are hers and nobody can say that they are the wrong size. Spend time in Spain, and you will see.
jermey
Wow, upon reading this I am SO happy I live in Europe! Where it's fine to show naked human bodies on national television, also at daytime, because a body is just a body and not primarily a sexual object. If they're going to show a dressing room, you're going to be seeing breasts, buttcracks and the occasional glimpse of pubic hair. It shocks nobody and therefore I think makes people a lot less self-conscious about their bodies and sex.
However, about breast shape and size there of course still is a lot of insecurity. Even if breastfeeding in public is normal and butts on television are okay, we would all still prefer looking like the young perky actresses in those movies over the baggy breasts we have. Well, I do anyway.
So thank you for this website! It helps a lot of people.
Lara
I'm starting to feel ashamed about how I've begun to view breasts since, probably since the very beginning of my adolescence. I'm 18 right now and though I do know that the main purpose of breasts is for nursing, I'm still stuck with the conception that breasts are also a sexual object, something erotic. I'm beginning to wonder why breasts have to be surrounded in taboo, and why does the media have to make them out to be a sexual object? Honestly I'm a little irritated now.
I don't know if my feelings will ever change, I'd prefer not to be stuck with an eternal 'fetish' for breasts. I don't know how my mom treated breastfeeding with me, I don't ask, I probably never will, as it seems like sex all together is kept on the hush-hush and on a down low. As I think about it, sure in some ways, we (The US) are more advanced than some other countries, but when it really gets down to things, we are just a bunch of perverted and sex crazed society. Not to say everyone has blended in, but just that things are just so ridiculous...
Alex
HEY! This website has been MOST important to my understanding of breast and children's OBSESSION with "boobies." I fully endorse your message! so important.
an admirer
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